Ant #256. Let's talk about relationships.

Yes, again )))
I've found an interesting article and I'd like to share it with my readers.
I still don't know if I agree or disagree, but it has a point definitely.
Here is my translation.

The letter of one skilled woman to young girls.

Relationships that can be long shouldn't be complicated be default. How long a person can fuck his own brain and other's brains? Half a year, one year, in the worst case a couple of years. Then finally he fucks everyone so badly that audience leaves him alone in a concert hall under the heat of the lights.

All these so-called complicated relationships, all these comes-goes, all these talks about high feelings - it's just because you have too much free time.  They are WRONG relationships. Seriously. It seems like you wanna buy Ferrari, but you only have enough money for buying Ford in a basic complectation. And you're gonna annoy everyone around you telling them about how great is Ferrari. You turn your suffering into a fetish and you will never think that the only thing you need is a nice car that can put you from point A to point B.

Relationships must be simple. It doesn't matter which degree your partner has, how many languages he speaks, how many women he had before, it only matters if you feel comfortable with him. If he drives you into depression, if you feel with him as bad as without him, if he fucks your brain instead of fucking your body, it's not gonna work. Go away. And you'll understand a lil bit later if you ever loved him.

Love is indescribable feeling. Sometimes we take passion, habit, respect as love, but it's not. From "complicated" relationships you don't get anything except of a headache. 

Once again, relationships must be simple. Because with this person you're gonna live together, bear children, build a house, make plans, visit relatives, etc. And if you think you can avoid all this crap, you're wrong.

How it happens usually? At first we need a tall muscular beautiful rich sexy romantic son of a bitch, but many many years later we understand - we ALL understand - that we just need a man who will always be near, no matter what. Not sometimes, but always! That's why reliability is a very important quality.

He is to help you in your most difficult times of your life. Responsibility is also very important.

You will want to share with him your happiness and sadness, your dreams and fears. Compassion is so damn important. 

You will learn his as yourself, you will understand each other with no words, but you will still argue sometimes because he is not you, you're not him. Tolerance is a "must-have".

And you will concede each other, step by step removing your single-life habits. Flexibility is very very important.

And you will make important decisions, together and separately, decisions which are quite capable to change your current life. Trust - the most important.

Think about it. When you were 20, what did you want? It all doesn't matter! Who cares if he's beautiful of not, slim or not so, rich or poor. The only thing you need is understanding that you would go through anything with him. And it feels muuuuuch worse when he's not around. 

And in 20 years you'll see at yourself taking care of him just because he sneezed once. And you'll stop thinking about where are you going coz you'll be in a place you need. Love is unpredictable. Ever.

And all these "complicated" relationships... Go to macrame courses or help to orphans. Leave you brain alone. It has so many things to do.

Ant #255. 1 year.

I just cannot believe it!
Today is the 1st anniversary of my living in Argentina.

Gosh, 1 year since I arrived to Ezeiza International Airport.
It was the most exciting flight in my entire life, I was brave, full of hopes and happy! I knew what I was doing and what for. I wanted to change my life and I have definitely done it!

So how was this year to me?
Shortly, it was everything!

I got every type of events/emotions/problems that a person can get.
Sometimes it was difficult, sometimes it was fun, sometimes it was bitter, sometimes it was crazy.
Like in a song, "it wasn't always perfect, but it wasn't always bad".

Do I think it was a mistake? I don't know.
Would I rather stay at home if I knew 1 year ago how will it be? Probably yes. Not because I regret of coming here. I just think it was kinda pointless. My life changed in many ways, but not the way I wanted it to change. I lost too much and got almost nothing. But still... I'm enjoying to be here. I love the country (not the government), I like people, I like the weather, I like the situation with tolerance and human rights, I like the food and wine here.

I've learnt some big lessons here:
Expectations -> disappointments.
Life is too short for bullshit.
Trust no bitches. Watch who is really worth your time, your care and your love. Don't waste your emotions, they can run out in any moment.
You can do anything if you believe in yourself. There are no limits!

So... It's time to thank some people.

At first I'd like to thank those amazing people who I've met here. Not calling names, you all know who I'm talking about. Thank you for being with me, for getting my ass to the parties, for calling and texting me when I feel bad, for asking me how am I, for teaching me bad words, for helping me in many ways, for introducing me to other good people. Thank you very much! XoXo

Then I'd like to thank those who left me. Thank you for making me stronger, for helping me to discover my inner power, for explaining me that I'm not that bad, there are much worse people, for teaching me how to separate real friends from fake friends. Thank you very much! XoXo

Also I'd like to thank my family and my friends from my "past life". Thank you for supporting me no matter what, for not forgetting me, for staying in touch through all this year, you are better than gold, better than any diamond in the universe, you're simply the best! Thank you very much and see you all soon! XoXo

And last, but not least I'd like to thank my best friend. Thank you for always being with me, for understanding, for the best advices you give me, for your amazing sense of humor and countless laugh I got with you. I'll never forget the moment we first met almost 5 years ago and all the great experience we had together. Thank you very much! XoXo Dior bless you! )))

Sincerely yours, el ruso.

Ant #254. Aging.

Shit, we're getting older.
All of us!

No matter who we are, no matter where we live, no matter what we do, every single day the time is running out. And it's extremely sad when you meet your friend in a few months since the last time and you cannot recognize him. He's got his hair grey, he's got new wrinkles.

I'm not afraid of getting/being older, but what I'm really afraid of is that one day I wake up and realize that my life is over and I didn't really enjoy it.
Till what age will I be fun, full of energy, attractive etc?
Till what age will I be able to party all night long?
Till what age will I travel the world and meet new people?

And what if today I still feel young inside and suddenly I'm a retired man?

Ant #253. Instagram.

Probably the last person on Earth, I've finally joined Instagram.
I still don't understand the sense of sharing my pictures with people that I don't know, but I wanna try it.

The main reason is Madonna.
She uses it a lot, and with upcoming album and tour I wanna stay updated.

Another reason is rubbish-photos.
Sometimes I take interesting pictures that aren't worth to be on my facebook, so Instagram is a perfect place for them.

I hope I'm not getting bored of it soon.
Follow me: http://instagram.com/chamuyero

Ant #252. Brazil.

2 weeks!
2 unforgettable weeks I spent there!

Why the hell didn't I go to this amazing country before? >_<

So my trip was: Rio de Janeiro -> Brasilia -> San Paulo.

RIO DE JANEIRO

1) No one speaks english there.
2) Spanish and portuguese are much more similar than I thought, so we could understand each other.
3) The weather is like a woman there, changes all the time.
4) What people say about african men (you know what I mean) is true! XD
5) Public transport is kinda expensive there. Food in restaurants is ok. Starbucks is cheaper than in Moscow, but more expensive than in Buenos Aires.
6) People in clubs remind me russians (no explanations! Who knows what I'm talking about will understand me).
7) The city itself is very nice and definitely worth to see. The landscape blew my mind!

BRASILIA

1) No one speaks fucking english! Guys, I swear, it's a touristic hell. 3 different receptionists in my hotel, 5 bus/taxi drivers, 6-10 restaurant/cafe staff, 4 museum staff and many more, and none of them spoke english!!! It's insane!!!
2) If you're a pedestrian, you'll be in trouble. This city is not for you. There's even no way to cross a street. I saw just a very few traffic lights for pedestrians.
3) Weather forecast is a pure bullshit! No match at all! AT ALL!!!
4) The city itself is absolutely unique! Definitely worth to see, at least once!

SAN PAULO

1) A very few people spoke english, but they tried anyway, and I really appreciate it.
2) Totally underrated city! Seriously, I loved it much more than Rio. )))
3) Strong strong strong cocktails everywhere! My Cosmo was just a pure alcohol.
4) Big cultural life and good night life.
5) Horrible (but not the worst) traffic.
6) Cheaper than Rio and Brasilia.

+ extra:
Probably there I felt home. I don't mean that I'd like to live there, I mean SP really reminds me Moscow... Traffic, people in rush, city structure... It was an amazing experience!

+ extra 2:
Lollapalooza is a really cool festival!
Usually I try no to attend this kind of events, but this time I didn't have a choice and I didn't regret at all! I absolutely enjoyed it!